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According to Encarta English Dictionary Family is- a group of people who are closely related by birth, marriage, or adoption.
From my own experience I view family as people whom I love and are very close to. People that I can’t spend a day without speaking to or people who I cant stop thinking about.
Other than my mom and dad, I have no other BLOOD related family in USA. As a child I was extremely jealous of my friends that had a big family, with siblings and lots of cousins. They always told me “Bruna this is not fun, you’re lucky your sisters don’t live with you.” No I’m really not, I hate it. I hate being alone, I always need to be with people. That’s why when I get older and start my own family I want a big one, I would hate for my children to go through what I went through all alone. It is extremely difficult to have your whole entire family thousands of miles away from you.
My friends are my family, they mean the world to me and I am extremely over protective over them. I treat them as if they were my siblings. So to ME family is so much more than being just blood related. Due to the circumstances that I have lived with, I have some blood-related family who I do not even know, and could care less for, as I’m sure the feeling is mutual. I would put my close friends over some of my family; of course, not close or immediate family.
I consider one of my very close friends my cousin, and everyone even says that we look a lot alike, some even confuse us for twins. She is Portuguese as well and her family is very close to mine. Our parents are best friends, and we grew up together. We share many of the same beliefs about most topics. Our morals are pretty much the same, and we dress about the same too. I also think that because we are so close, of course we are going to act similar, considering the fact that we spend so much time together. Also, our parents act pretty similar, as far as raising us and how they would talk to us and treat us; punish us if they had to.
I think that this is for the most part true; it is pretty basic you have people who care and love one another, and are related most of the times. People who build relationships with different people and then consider them family, however every family is different. On the other hand, I think that family is a pretty complex system, since they are not all the same and each one has its own values, morals, traditions, and customs. I can see how family can be detrimental and/or beneficial to an individual or people to certain in a society. We are often influenced by our peers, media, and from others around us.
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For example, if there are two children who are best friends, if one is going through a divorce than the other will probably fear that her family will experience the same thing.
In my case, I saw that most if not all of my friends had siblings either older or younger, I would often ask my mom “mommy why can’t I have a little brother or sister?” or “mommy why do my sisters live in Portugal, and we live here?” My own family experience has greatly impacted me, so I assume the same would go for other people in society.
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I feel as though the media would play a HUGE role in those, I mean look at Prince William’s wedding, which is all that I see on the TV, and to be quite honest I’m sick of it. I honestly do not care what his wedding decors look like, who his wife to be brides mate is going to be or what they are wearing. But I’m sure that so many people are watching this and dreaming, that they have a wedding like that.
WoW! This is really great stuff right here! I totally agree with wanting a sibling to be around. I am my mother's only child. Yet I have 2 little brothers'. To make it even more confusing, my father only has 2 children. So in other words, my little brother has a little brother. I couldn't imagine my youngest brother feeling the seperation and anxiety of this situation as I feel it at 23 and now how my blood brother is starting to figure it out at 14. So I chose to claim his brother as my own. This is why I say that family can't be difined by a dictionary.. or I hate to say it, but religion either. If you feel closer to your bestfriend then she is most def. your family. She will be the only one who you can rely on to hold your hand through anything if needed without her having to jump on a plane! Great WORK KID!
ReplyDeleteAhw, thank you very much. I'm glad that you see where I'm coming from. I totally agree i don't think that family can be defined by a dictionary, nor government, or church/religion. Who are they to say, who OUR family is.
ReplyDeleteMe and my bestfriend have shared more "sister-like" moments that maybe most sisteres, and we get along extremely well, of course we are very quick to call eachother out when one of us is being a bit bitchy, lol. But, we are family none the less.